You are not alone in this.
If someone you love is struggling with alcohol or drugs, you may feel worried, angry and exhausted all at once. Here is where to start.
Starting the conversation
A few things that help.
Pick a calm moment
Avoid raising it during or straight after an argument, or when they are under the influence.
Speak without blame
Say what you have noticed and how it affects you. “I am worried about you” lands better than “you always…”.
Offer something specific
For example, offer to go with them to an assessment. A clear next step is easier to accept than a general plea.
Look after yourself too
You can support someone without losing yourself. Our family team can guide you, whether or not your loved one is in treatment.
How we support families
Our family team offers confidential consultations for spouses, parents and adult children.
- Guidance shaped around your family’s situation.
- Intervention support to help a reluctant loved one accept care.
- Education on supporting recovery without enabling addiction.
Questions families ask
What if they refuse to get help?
Many people do at first. Keep the door open, avoid ultimatums you will not keep, and talk to us about a gentle, planned approach.
Will I be told how they are doing?
With your loved one’s consent, yes. We keep families updated and invite them to workshops and joint sessions.
What if it is an emergency?
If someone has overdosed, is unconscious, or is in immediate danger, call 999 or 112, or go to the nearest hospital. Then call us.
Talk to someone who understands.
Call or message our family team. You can ask questions without committing to anything.